“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”-Mother Teresa
The first time I’ve seen this saying I was so amazed.It inspired me in so many ways and I started to read between the lines.I guess it’s said in a metaphoric way and there are other elements implied.I want to share what I really understand from this saying.
So, we all love at some point in our life a person who would never love us in return..That’s fine.It happens to all of us and I guess it’s a lesson that we have to learn at some point.A unilateral love is painful.There are many comparisons that you can make, but let’s just say it’s like having a hole in your heart that makes you bleed.It hurts each passing day, more and more.That’s the first part of the saying “loving until it hurts”.
The best part is healing.It happens with the passing of time and even though you heal and everything you will always love that person no matter what.Once you love someone, you always love someone.As time passes the hurt kind of fades.If the pain disappears that means only love is left.Sometimes even more than love:forgiveness.I think forgiveness is a powerful act of love.Even saying “thank you” for breaking my heart is an act of love.
That’s the paradox.When we love until it hurts and we think that nothing in the world will heal us, we remain with love.Maybe we remain with love in our hearts all the time, but it’s hard for us to see, because of the grief.Sometimes pain is what it takes for us to understand that we actually get more love with each new wound.