If you are an emotional person, than any distressing event can strike a chord inside your heart. Any event can make you feel helpless or hopeless and despair may be able to set in and overcome you. At least, that’s what I see all around me. People who are really emotional, but choose to hide it. I know that for a lot of you out there it’s easier to put a wall up between yourselves and the world, but that’s the thing with isolation, it can actually make you feel worse rather than better. I think that we live in a society where we are told what to feel, how to feel and in what degree is fine, but this is a really stupid thing if you ask me. No one and I mean NO ONE has the right to say that your feelings or your experiences aren’t as valuable as someone who went to war or struggled with alcoholism or whatever…because, yes you may not have been in a situation where you may need to overcome physical abuse, for instance, but that doesn’t mean that what you feel is unimportant. Comparing to others, you may feel small or stressing over nothing, but if that event gets to you, it means that you are a human being and a break up can be as traumatic for you as a war is for a soldier. You can have similar symptoms. I’m just saying this to make people understand that each person is different and everybody puts their own subjective interpretation over an event…and yes, it can hurt like hell. You may end up having nightmares. Insomnia. Heartbeats faster than normal. Flashbacks. Need to isolate. Trust issues…and all kind of things…just because of something which actually should be unimportant compared to other stuff. What I do believe is that when you are an emotional person, someone dearly insulting you can have a really strong impact on who you are as a person. Or criticism….or break ups….or fights with friends…or misunderstandings. Yes, emotional people, that’s right. I don’t feel that someone really tells them that it’s fine whatever you are feeling. You have the gift to experience this world differently, because you are sensitive…and that’s not wrong. You can use this to create something amazing and help others…or just help yourself. Show the world the best you’ve got. A misunderstanding can tear you into pieces just like seeing people die is what haunts a doctor. Your experiences are valuable and it depends on the person how things affect you, but I strongly believe that no one puts emphasis on how emotional people have to deal with all the messed up things in this world. It’s really hard and we should be at least grateful. Without them, we wouldn’t have a lot of books to read or photographs to admire or paintings to hang on the wall. They do go through hell, maybe every day, maybe more than you who are not so emotional. I think we overlook this and treat people who say ,,I suffer because someone rejects me” or because ”I fought with my best friend yesterday and now we don’t get on well anymore” like it’s not a big deal, but it is. Left untreated, everything can escalate. So, just be a good person and listen to what they have to say. Show support. Be there when emotional people need you. It may seem like it’s not a big deal for you, but you can actually help someone in need. Everyone’s problems are valuable and just because you haven’t witnessed a crime that doesn’t make them less important or less traumatic. So, yes, this world is crazy for making emotional people feel like overreacting freaks. They are not. They just feel everything more intense than you could ever imagine…and this is both a blessing and a curse. If you don’t have to face something like this, you are lucky….but if you do and I think most people are….I want you to know that what you feel matters and forget what this world thinks. No one has the right to say how an event or an experience should or shouldn’t affect you….and NOBODY has the right to judge how you feel because of it. They haven’t walked in your shoes. They haven’t lived your life. If you need to cry, do it. Even on the streets. Wherever you feel like it. Who cares if people will look at you like you are crazy? You will feel better. It’s worse to hide your emotions, because they are a part of who you are, especially if you are sensitive. Take care of yourself and never forget that your experiences are as valuable as someone who was raped and just because you didn’t go through something like that, this doesn’t mean that you may not feel at least something similar.
Lots of love,
Queen of Hearts